Do you ever get freaked out at night?

We've talked about living alone and seeing movies alone, but what about sleeping alone...
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Wes Anderson movies

Our friends saw Wes Anderson's new movie Moonrise Kingdom this week and said it was wonderful. (It has also been getting rave reviews.) Have you seen it yet? But my favorite Wes Anderson film was...
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Wednesday giveaway!

Today's giveaway is a BIG one! Beso is my favorite shopping website, where you can shop thousands of stores and brands, all in one place. Beso also has an awesome collections feature, where you can create wishlists of items you love.

My summer wishlist features the items above, plus many more. See it here.

Beso is giving away a whopping $500 cash for any items on their site (even this diamond ring!). To enter, please create your own collection and leave a comment below *with a link to your collection*. It takes a minute, but it's fun. A winner will be chosen at random on Monday, so you have five days. Good luck! xoxo Update: Lori M. is our lucky winner. Thanks for playing.

NYC Date Idea: Fire Escape Drinks

Alex and I are always lamenting the fact that we don't have a garden or balcony or any outdoor space. Once Toby goes to bed, we're pretty much stuck inside for the night. But then! We had a lightbulb moment...
We could hang out on our fire escape. So we've started a little ritual of climbing out there on random warm evenings, and last night, we decided to snap some photos. First, we dress up to make it feel more like a real date. (I usually wear jeans and a T-shirt at home...or, let's be honest...pajamas:)
Then we climb out our bedroom window. (Whoot, whoot! Nice legs!)
We sip and chat, three stories up. We can hear the street noise (cars honking), the trees (leaves rustling), and a restaurant garden nearby (people murmuring, glasses clinking)...
Do you ever drink rose? Sometimes it gets a bad rap, but it's the perfect refreshing drink for a warm evening. And I love the bright pink hue; it just feels like summer. (Side note: You can spot the restaurant garden below us, to the left of Alex.)
Our fire escape looks across a courtyard onto another apartment building, just like Rear Window.
We love our little outdoor drinks, and I'm glad, after six years of living here, that we finally thought of it!

Do you have a fire escape? Or a balcony? Or (gasp) an actual garden? Be still my heart.

(Update: I'm wearing this silk polka-dot skirt and these Swedish Hasbeen sandals.)

Be Ignorant, Be Silent, Be Thick: Melissa Harris-Perry's Wellesley College Commencement Speech

Many of you have probably heard your fair share of graduation speeches over the last few weeks, but I couldn't resist posting this video of Melissa Harris-Perry's speech at Wellesley's graduation this year.

Some of my favorite parts:

"Don't nod and smile unless you're happy and agree."

"Don’t let your voice do that high-pitched thing at the end that sounds like you’re asking a question when really you’re making a statement."

"You’re going to miss a new syllabus. You’re going to miss someone handing you a piece of paper full of things you didn’t know about; the exquisite moment of utter ignorance just before the learning begins."

"Ignorance is not your enemy. Only complacency with ignorance is to be resisted."

"Never become so enamored of your own smarts that you stop signing up for life’s hard classes."

"Women’s education is very much about finding your voice, about sharing your ideas freely, about battling the boys. But there is an enormous difference between being silenced and choosing to be silent. When you choose to be silent, to quiet it down, to listen, you’ve actually exercised the other part of voice – the part that makes your voice sound like something."

"In a world that teaches women to be thin, be thick. Thin women stand on the sidelines, they’re critical, they’re removed, they’re barely committed. But thick people pitch tents in a park, with the belief that social action can change an entire global system of economic injustice. Thin citizens vote. Thick citizens run for office. Thick leaders listen, learn, and correct. Thin women look great in bikinis. Thick women look terrific in history books."

The Best Chicken Cutlets You'll Ever Have (with Corn Flakes!)

Jenny Rosenstrach writes the fantastic food blog Dinner: A Love Story and has a brilliant cookbook memoir of the same name coming out next week (yay!). She and her husband Andy are passionate about nightly family dinners with their two daughters--and swear it's possible, if you keep things simple and fun. (Fun fact: Jenny has a diary listing every single dinner she's made since 1998!) Here, she reveals her secret family recipe for the best chicken cutlets ever...
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Glow-in-the-dark driveway

How beautiful is this driveway? It's actually doable: It's made of glowstones mixed with gravel. Imagine driving home after a long day at work--awesome.

(Via Pinterest)

Happy Graduation!

Happy graduation B!

So much happened this past week!

On Saturday, we went to a friend's graduation party and Brett's parents came into town. On Sunday, we drove up to Watch Hill, Rhode Island to eat ice cream and stroll along the beach. On Monday, Brett graduated from Yale and won lots of awards! We now have official documentation on fancy Yale paper that he is, in fact, the smartest man in the world :-). On Thursday, I had my first job interview for an ATL-based job. And on Friday, I had two big projects due at work, we went to a party in a greenhouse, and we said goodbye to some friends.

It was a whirlwind to be sure. We were so excited for the long, relaxing weekend, which we spent eating homemade guacamole, checking out some museums, sleeping in, doing some yoga, watching Law and Order: SVU, and reading new books.

I didn't post much this past week with everything going on, but I'm really looking forward to spending some more time writing over the next few weeks and months.

And Brett: Happy graduation! You worked hard, grew tremendously as a scholar, wrote some awesome papers, have possibly cultivated the seeds of a really exciting and innovative dissertation topic, and never forgot to include women and the marginalized in your work. You even wrote an entire paper on menstrual blood in Leviticus! I couldn't be more proud of you.

Summer Essential #6: Beach Blanket

A few years ago, we picked up one of these beach blankets. They're thin and lightweight, so you can carry them easily (or stuff one into a bag), and then spread them out for a grassy picnic or napping on the sand. We've used it a million times; I'd highly recommend them!

P.S. Five more summer essentials...

Summer Essential #5: A One-Piece Swimsuit

A swimsuit can say a lot about a woman, don't you think? Maybe it says she's laid back, or silly, or feminine, or in love with a past era. Whatever her personality, there always seems to be a swimsuit to match. Here are seven pretty one-pieces for the summer... --Rachel from Elephantine

1. Patchwork Maillot, $218.
2. Natalie One-Piece, $148.
3. Purple Bandeau Tank, $82.
4. Red Polka-Dot, $86.
5. Red Striped Halter, $208.
6. Blue Bandeau Swimsuit, $30.
7. Bustier One-Piece, $253. (So cute on the model.)

Which would you choose? (I also love this striped one and this seersucker one in yellow.)

P.S. More round-ups...

(Layout by Rachel from Elephantine, a new Cup of Jo contributor)

Have a relaxing long weekend.

What are you up to this weekend? We're celebrating my mom's sixtieth birthday and crossing our fingers for clear skies. Also, Alex and I watched The Firm this week (he'd never seen it); I forgot how fun and gripping that movie is. Tom Cruise doesn't age! Hope you have a wonderful weekend, and here are a few great posts from around the web...

A song to kick off your weekend.

Mick and Paul, eating apples.

Coolest photo of Obama.

Pretty Parisian.

Pink neon sandals.

Who wants a wine spritzer?

Two adorable dogs.

10 Olympic sports that are ripe for a comeback.

Colored flame birthday candles.

A slinky on a treadmill. Weirdly suspenseful:)

These are such realistic newborn dolls. Creepy?

(Remember these actual newborns?)

Sweet NYC break-up story.

A baby thinks this magazine is a broken iPad.

(Photo of a rooftop picnic by Jamie Beck)

Happy 2nd birthday, Toby!

Today is Toby's second birthday!!! Hurray!!! (I cannot believe this happened two years ago, it feels like yesterday.) To celebrate, we threw a birthday picnic for him last Sunday. Here are some photos, below, if you'd like to see....
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Design Your Own Engagement Ring like Ivanka

The engagement rings is not just Ivanka Trump's passion, it's her business. So Jared had to present her with great special, and as far as engagement rings go, Ivanka's is one of the finest. The 5 carat cushion-cutdiamond in platinum and diamond setting is downright drool-worthy. Jared really chose it from her own signature range of engagement rings. I guess this is one method to make sure she'll love it! Even though the ring is displayed on her webstore no price is mentioned but we can guess it's worth a fortune.

Jared apparently planned to Ivanka in front of her jewellery colleagues. I bet they were dying to see which of Ivanka's engagement rings designs Jared have chosen. On request of Jewish Kushner, 27-year-old Ivanka had completed a long progression of converting to Judaism. That's commitment for you! The couple are preparation to get married sometime next year, and from looking at her Twitter feed they have already started planning the celebration you can bet it will be a Who's Who of the rich and famous. Although her converting to Judaism was through public, there is no news as to whether the wedding itself will be a religious one or not.

Thursday giveaway!

Today's giveaway is from Couverture and The Garbstore, a rad boutique in Notting Hill, London. They have beautiful dresses, jewelry, shoes, everything, from designers like A.P.C. and Steven Alan. (And I love this tee.) One lucky winner will receive this chambray smock dress with patchwork panels by A Détacher ($610). Wouldn't you love to wear this all summer with peach lipstick and a ponytail?

For a chance to win, please visit Couverture and The Garbstore and leave a comment below. A winner will be chosen at random on Monday (so you have four days). Good luck! Update: Vanessa G. is our lucky winner. Thanks for playing.

Bonus for all readers: Get a 30% discount on any order with the code Wa9at6fB from now until Monday.

Cheese wedding cake

Speaking of offbeat weddings, this Australian couple served a cheese wedding cake. Be still my heart.

What kind of dessert will (or did) you serve at your wedding? We went with chocolate-chip cookies.

P.S. More on cheese:)

(Photos by Jonas Peterson)

Do or Don't: Colorful wedding dresses

Thursday pop quiz! What color wedding dress would you wear, if white weren't an option? Here are your choices...
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Wednesday giveaway!

Today's giveaway is from Curator, a San-Francisco-based clothing line with sexy, comfy pieces you can wear everyday. Today they're giving away their pleated Mari skirt ($110), which comes in a bunch of colors. Wouldn't you just live in this skirt all summer?

For a chance to win, please visit Curator (and feel free to check them out on Facebook) and leave a comment below. A winner will be chosen at random tomorrow. Good luck! Update: Lauren C. is our lucky winner. Thanks for playing.

Bonus for all readers: Get a 15% discount off all Curator clothing with the code CUPOFJO for the next seven days.

Garden cake

Speaking of birthdays, how pretty is this garden cake? You could whip up any basic cake and just cover it with berries, leaves and teeny flowers.

(Photo and cake by Manger)

The Best Party Cocktail You'll Ever Have

My mom turned sixty last February (!), and we're throwing her a long-awaited family party this coming weekend. My brother, sister and I have been brainstorming surprises for her party, which I'll keep secret until next week--and I'm also in charge of drinks. Happily, my friend Anna suggested this incredible cocktail, which we're definitely whipping up this weekend...
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Colored chalk tips

Today I'm excited to share another hair tutorial! My genius friend Caroline used chalk (yes, plain old chalk) to color the ends of her hair like a rainbow, and you could also do ombre or just your favorite color. Don't you love this sexy rocker look? Here's how to do it...
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[Katelyn] The Last Name Project

In this new series co-hosted by from two to one and The Feminist Mystique, we will be profiling an array of individuals and couples about their last name decisions upon marriage or what they expect to choose if they marry. The goal is to explore how individuals make decisions about their last name, and to highlight the many possibilities. We will be posting profiles periodically and encourage you to stay connected via Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest.  If you would like to participate in this series, email Danielle at danielle [at] fromtwotoone [dot] com or Shannon at hill [dot] shannonp [at] gmail [dot] com.   

The following post is from Katelyn, a theologian, ethicist, writer, and FEMINIST. She blogs about theology, gender, sexuality, and women's issues over at Celestial Fig Trees (and sometimes writes about cooking, too). 

Although I am not married, I have spent years thinking about whether I am going to keep my name when I do get married. For most of my life, aesthetic has been the primary deciding point for me; does the name flow off the tongue appropriately? I remember that when I was about five years old, I just knew that I was going to marry my best friend Joshua one day. I also remember deciding that—since he was of Polish descent, and his name was much too difficult to spell—he was going to have to take my name if I would agree to the marriage at all. A practical decision, perhaps, had I not eventually learned how to spell his name (really, Polish spelling isn't that hard!).

Of course, my friendship with Joshua didn't last after my family moved away, but the notion of keeping a practical name stuck with me. Ease of spelling grew less important, since I have the privilege of a mother with two difficult to spell names (Ouida Juanette), and an aunt whose name features a letter not in the English character set (Aïda). It was not until I got together with my current boyfriend, Marc, that I really started considering the possibility of keeping my name. I was not looking forward to having an alliterative name (since his last name is Kashiwagi), but that wasn't what decided things for me. Instead, it was meeting his mother, an early-second-wave feminist who kept her last name when she got married. Her reasoning behind keeping her own name was that since she had been published and received several degrees in her name, it made no sense to change it because of custom. She also handles having a different name from her husband and son with grace. I admire her strength of character; after marrying Marc's father the two of them immediately moved to Saudi Arabia where she faced the difficulties of being a feminist in a country with a history of oppression of women.

The practical points she made about keeping a name that had been linked to her in published work (an important consideration for me as a sometime-published writer) resonated with me, and reminded me about my own beliefs about names. I believe that my family names are a part of who I am, and changing my name would remove a certain part of my identity. I want to preserve my family heritage, and I claim my grandmothers' family names with as much pride as my grandfathers'.

Around the same time that I first met Marc's mother, I took a class in Spanish culture, and learned that the Spanish have an interesting approach to naming, and one that I wish the United States legal system would honor. In Spanish culture, each person has two last names: their father's family name and their mother's family name. Upon marriage, a woman does not change her name, and she does not take on a part of her husband's name. Instead, their marriage is recognized in the names of their children, who take their father's family name and their mother's family name. If my family used this system, my name would not be Katelyn Celeste Willis, but it would be Katelyn Celeste Willis Bales, and my mother's name would be Ouida Juanette Bales Riddick, and my father's name Gerald Kenneth Willis Barden. My children, were I to have any with my current boyfriend, would take the last names Kashiwagi Willis, not hyphenated.

What I like about the Spanish system is its elegance; it preserves the matrilineal heritage while allowing women to keep their own names. It solves the problem of trying to decide which name the children should take. And it would make researching family trees so much easier! In an ideal world, my family would use this system of naming. Feminism, to me, is about cherishing one's identity and having the right to be who you are. How can you do that without honoring and acknowledging all of your names?

What makes you happy?

Yesterday was one of those stressful days, so today I'd love to ask you: What are three things that make you happy? When I asked you years ago, your answers included baby cheeks, the cool side of the pillow and a good fudgy brownie. (Also, "pee shivers." Ha!) My list right now is: clean sheets with freshly shaven legs, a new episode of Mad Men, Belgian beer. And you?

P.S. Also, peonies. And baby swans that ride on their mother's back.

Motherhood Monday: How much did the tooth fairy leave for you? Your kids?

When we were kids, we left our lost teeth under our pillows and got a whopping...
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Motherhood Mondays: Scrapboxes

Last year, for his first birthday, Toby got a toy bus as a gift, and since then, he played with it so much that we lost the passengers inside, and then the wheels fell off, and then the whole bottom fell off. In the end, it was just a yellow shell. We ended up throwing it away this past weekend, which was surprisingly heartbreaking for Alex and me. (As a parent, you become so sentimental!)

So, these scrapboxes by Darcy Miller, below, really appeal to me. You frame a photo and an actual item. We could have framed this photo of Toby along with part of his beloved bus. This kind of thing could come off as cheesy, but Darcy handles them so beautifully. How sweet to have a photo of your child's birthday with the actual candle she blew out, or a newborn photo along with that sweet striped hospital cap. (And they could be great for grown-ups, too. Think: a vacation photo with seashells, or a wedding photo with a dried flower from your bouquet.)

Thoughts? How sweet are these? I'm turning into such a sap!
P.S. Remember this couple's idea?

(Photo of Toby by our wonderful photographer friend Kelsey Foster)

Is This Feminist?

This new tumblr is amazing, hilarious, and shockingly not problematic.

It's hard being a marginally acceptable feminist!

Have a lovely weekend!

What are you up to this weekend? Toby turns two on May 25th (here's a photo of him as a newborn!), but we've having his birthday party this weekend. It's an afternoon picnic with pizza, and strawberries on popsicle sticks. I'm excited, and he definitely knows something's up. Have a great one, and here are a few fun posts from around the web...

A nine-year-old writes a blog about school lunches.

Whoa. Now those are high-waisted pants.

Pinup style is back.

Biking to the supermarket!

Ice eggs for little dudes.

How common is your birthday? (Apparently people have more sex in the winter:)

Rad home makeover.

Just got this red colorblock bag for the summer.

This lion is part of the family.

How to photograph a newborn.

Moist chicken every time.

Salads for dinner.

Make your own colorblock flats.

A beautifully honest post about struggling with infertility.

And a bonus for all readers who need glasses or sunglasses: Get 20% off at Lookmatic. xoxo

(Photograph by Billy Kidd)

Do or Don't: Eyelash curler

Last night, I hung out with my gorgeous friend Susan from Glamour, and as we chatted, I couldn't stop staring at her eyelashes. They were so thick and swoopy and gorgeous. Her eyes looked beautiful and wide awake. Her big secret? An eyelash curler. I've never had one, since I figured it wouldn't do much. But after last night, I'm sold. (Bonus: Susan said the cheap ones are just as good). Thoughts? Do you use an eyelash curler? Am I the last one to the party?
(Top photo of Audrey Hepburn, although I wish I could have taken a photo of Susan's perfect lashes!)

NYC Date Idea: Trapeze class

So. Last Saturday, Alex and I took a trapeze class, and it was wild...
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Mindy Kaling's new sitcom

Have you guys heard that Mindy Kaling will star in a new sitcom this fall? "The Mindy Project" is all about a quirky OB/GYN who's trying to figure out her messy dating life. As Salon points out, the premise sounds pretty typical, but Kaling is so awesome and funny (and Emmy-nominated) that the show sounds promising. Here's the trailer. Will you be watching the show?

Make This Tonight!

I've been MIA this week because of a project at work and stress preparations for our upcoming move. But last night for dinner, Brett and I made a salad that was so delicious, I just had to share. And tell you all to make it immediately.

Since Christmas, Brett and I have been vegetarian (more about why we did this and why I think vegetarianism is a feminist issue coming soon). The switch hasn't been hard at all, but Brett and I have both been getting a little bored of our go-to meals. Brett also fears that he isn't getting enough protein and fats, and I fear I'm getting too many fats and that Brett is getting all of his protein and fats from foods that will slowly kill him.

So last night I turned to the happiest, most magical place on the internet, Pinterest, for some recipe ideas. I stumbled upon this Lemon, Quinoa, Cilantro, and Chickpea salad that looked delicious and healthy. We didn't have a few of the items it called for on hand, so we adapted it. And now it is one of my favorite things ever.

                                                                             Source: thediva-dish.com via Shannon on Pinterest

Here's how to make our version (but check out the original too!):

Ingredients

For the salad
1/2 cup dry quinoa
1 can garbanzo beans, drained
3 tomatoes, chopped into bite-sized bits
2 avocados, diced
1/4 cup onion, finely chopped
2 cloves garlic
salt
1-2 tblsp. of lime juice
cumin to taste

For the dressing 
3 tblsp. lime juice
1 tsp. mustard
3 tsp. olive oil
1 tsp. agave nectar
1/2 tsp. cumin
dash of salt and pepper

Directions

1. Make your quinoa. I just follow the directions on the box. Make sure it cools before using in the salad. Then pour it into a big salad bowl.
2. Chop your onion, garlic, tomatoes, and avocado. Throw them in with the quinoa.
3. Open your can of garbanzo beans, throw them in with the quinoa.
4. Make your dressing by whisking all the ingredients together.  Pour over salad.
5. Mix until well combined.
6. Add more lime juice to taste. I added 1-2 tblsp. and a dash or two of cumin. You want to use just enough that it complements the other, natural flavors without the lime or cumin taking center stage.
7. Chill for 15 minutes in the fridge.
8. Enjoy!

Wednesday giveaway!

Today's giveaway is from Petitor, a jewelry shop with lovely pieces that are surprisingly affordable. The California-based designer is offering these teardrop earrings, which would look beautiful with a simple braid or twisted bun. Wouldn't they be perfect for a date night or even a wedding?

For a chance to win, please visit Petitor and leave a comment below. A winner will be chosen at random tomorrow. Good luck! Update: Elizabeth L. is our lucky winner. Thanks for playing.

Bonus for all readers: Get 10% off your order with the code ACUPOFJO, until this Sunday.

Summer Essential #4: Floppy sun hat

Three years ago, before our honeymoon, Alex gave me a giant sun hat. He insisted that I wear it at the beach to shield my (very) pale skin. Every summer since then, I've worn my trusty hat everywhere: at the water, on boats, on hikes and just hanging out with friends outside. Not only does it protect your face from the sun (which is SO important), it also feels glamorous and feminine.

If you want to go for a plain straw hat, like Brigitte Bardot or the gorgeous lady above, you can find lovely ones here, here and here. Here are six more pretty hats...
1. Orange-tipped hat, 2. Yellow striped hat, 3. Floral hat, 4. Blue hat, 5. Red hat, 6. Silk-scarf fedora.
This is my hat. What I love about this particular hat is that it's big and floppy but also structured, so you can shape it however you'd like when you put it on. (Alex chose well! And my sister now has one, too.) You could also go for large stripes or even larger stripes. And here's a really fancy version!

Do you have a floppy summer hat? Which of these would you choose?

(Round-up layout by Alyson/Unruly Things for Cup of Jo. Top photo of Pina Bausch by Walter Vogel)

The Best Meatballs You'll Ever Have

Eating meatballs while drinking red wine instantly makes you feel like all is right with the world. Something about meatballs--rich, luscious meatballs--makes you feel warm and cozy to your core (not to overdramatize it or anything:). Luckily, Faith Durand, the executive editor of The Kitchn, agreed to reveal the two secrets to making the world's best meatballs. "My husband was quite thrilled that I made these last night," she says. Here goes...Read More >